High Energy Relationships

The people around you have a direct impact on the level, amount, and sustainability of your personal energy. Making sure you identify those individuals that resonate on a positive level and then build and maintain relationships with those people will provide you with a residual, energy source.

Think of a person that when you are around them, regardless of how down or negative you might be feeling, they lift you up. They have this fire about them that spreads and you can’t help but smile more, laugh, feel at ease, or become engaged. We all know people like this and often find ourselves to be jealous of their effect on people. The more you surround yourself with those people, the more opportunity you have to share energies. It becomes a perpetual cycle of healthy energy.

ACTIVITY: Energy Connections

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Instructions:

Step 1: List all of the key people that impact you as a leader and write their names and roles in the column marked Key Person/Role. NOTE: You can expand this to your personal life as well.

Step 2: Referring back to the Energy Leadership Table write what energy level you believe your relationship to be with that person and write the number in the next column.

Step 3: Answer the question, “How do I feel when I am around this person?” If you answered happy/energized/secure/cared for/etc. write increase under the Energy Impact column. If you answered belittled/angry/frustrated/drained/etc. write decrease. If you thought of no real feelings put none in the column.

Relationships that increase your energy and make you feel positive are ones that will spur you towards your goals and fill your energy vessel back up. These are people you may want to spend more time with, engage more, and connect with on a regular basis.

People, where you list a decrease in energy, are ones that are not currently serving you and will definitely hold you back from moving as fast as you want towards your goals. You’re going to want to change these relationships soon, limit your contact with them, or possibly leave the relationship altogether.

For any relationship where you listed no feelings or neutral, you will want to explore further. Determine why you have no strong feelings for this person and see if there is anything that can be developed.

Step 4: Go back to the table and under the column marked Action, commit to taking at least one action in the relationship to improve its energy level and the impact it has on you.